Yes I’m “one of those” working moms……..and proud of it! Yes, I feel guilty at times (sometimes more than others) for not always being at home for dinner, or not making dinner at all. Yes we’ve had air popped popcorn for dinner a time or two, and yes we can laugh at those times…because there was usually a story behind it. I was a stay at home mom for a few years and I have to say I needed more. I mean I love my kids dearly and looking back I loved the time I had with them then but I longed for something else I was passionate about and I found it! I shouldn’t feel guilty about that. I’m proud of the kids I’m raising, and believe working has taught them lessons they wouldn’t have learned otherwise, research backs that theory up too. Special thanks goes out to Working Moms Mean Business for sponsoring this post so I could share my thoughts with you today.
Stop the guilt, working moms raise great kids too! 😉
I don’t know about you but there seems to be a lot of pressure in society today to be a stay at home mom. If you’re not you’re looked down upon by some. I was raised by a mother who worked so I never experienced a lifestyle where she was with me all the time, and quite frankly I don’t think I struggle myself as a mom because of it. Actually, I think the fact that I was raised in a house where my mom worked full time made me more likely to be a career driven women myself. Harvard research actually found that to be true as heard in Emma Johnson and Kathleen McGinn’s podcast called Working Moms’ Impact on Kids. Not only are kids with working moms more likely to become employed themselves, but tend to make more money in their careers and hold higher positions as well!
I think there’s room for all of us quite frankly and we should encourage each other on our motherhood journeys. If you’re lucky enough to be able to live off one income and you love being a stay at home mom….seriously, more power to you! If you need 2 incomes to survive or you have a job you’re passionate about and want to work outside the home your children learn positive lessons from you as well I believe…..like these:
- Passion – If you’re lucky enough to find a job that you love you teach your kids passion. You know when you’re staying up late to finish a report (or a post in my case) because you’re excited about the opportunity you’ve been given, or potentially could be getting….that’s passion. Waking up in the morning excited and ready to see what’s in store for you that day, that’s passion. I was a teacher for many years and I LOVED seeing my students each day, seeing them grow and improve. Now that I’m a full time blogger I’m not only excited to work with dream companies of mine, but I love hearing from followers that they made a new recipe I created and now it’s their family’s favorite meal. Your children feel that energy and passion from you and learn they too should strive to find something they love.
- Balance – This is tough, I will admit. Working full time and raising kids requires a lot of balance and prioritizing. There are only so many hours in the day. As a working mom I had to decide what were the most important things in my life, and delegate or eliminate what I could. In our case we hired a housekeeper to take that off my plate, and have our groceries delivered to our doorstep. Giving up those 2 things gave me more time to spend with my kids, and I didn’t feel guilty about eliminating them from my list of “to dos” = parenting win.
- Happiness – If you choose to be a working mom it may come with a bit of judgement from others in society, but if your job makes you feel fulfilled and a happier person overall your children will benefit! Working Moms Mean Business is a great resource for women like us that encourages working mothers and provides resources to help with the balance between work and home life. It definitely is a juggling act with work and kids but routines do help. Yes you may spend a bit less time with your kids after school if you work but your kids can feel your emotions, and if you pick them up happy and fulfilled it sets the mood for the entire day. I LOVE what I do, it makes me happy, and I don’t need to tell my kids that they can feel it on a daily basis.
Yes I am lucky enough to work from home, but I do work at least 60 hours a week and that does take away time from my kids. But the time I do spend with them is incredibly meaningful. You’re not alone if you have a career, 71% of moms are in the workforce and a quarter of moms are single and working is a necessity. It’s not the amount of time you spend with your kids, it’s the quality of time doing fun activities together each and every day that they’ll remember. All 3 of my girls know how passionate I am about what I do for a living, and actually brag to their friends (even my teenager) about it. I love it, thus they love it. My life lesson to them = find what you’re passionate about, then find a way to make a living at it. I don’t think my kids will look back at their childhood and feel they missed out by having a working mom, instead they will remember what fun things we were able to do together BECAUSE I was a working mom…..there should be NO guilt in that. So stop the guilt, working moms raise great kids too and research even backs us up on that…..AND you’re not alone! 😉